What was your ‘ah-ha’ moment? That epiphany that makes you realise where you’ve been steering yourself wrong, and how to course-correct your career and/or your life carries a particularly potent energy. Coaching has helped so many people to identify the reasons behind their lack of fulfilment, and it’s so magical to witness a person experiencing that shift in perception which brings about positive transformation.
Perhaps you haven’t quite reached your epiphany yet, and that’s okay. It’s never too late to take a new path or try something closer to your heart. You may have found yourself wondering what that missing piece of your happiness is, or why you don’t seem to garner much joy from the direction you have chosen. Don’t worry – life has a spooky way of nudging you in the right direction.
Maybe you’ve had your ‘ah-ha’ moment, but you are hesitant to act on it. Stepping into the unknown can be unnerving. However, if it will ultimately lead to your utmost joy, isn’t it worth the risk? Life is short after all.
No matter which of these stages you’re at, you’ll know that contemplating the ‘leap of faith can be a very daunting prospect. Let’s take a closer look at the many aspects of taking a chance on change.
Better the Devil you Know
The excuse we often make for staying in a less-than-satisfactory situation is to ‘stick with what you know’. The familiar feels safe. It’s your comfort zone. You know where you are with where you are, so to speak. In your career, for example, you might have been in your current job for a while. You find yourself browsing the job listings online and entertaining the notion of a change, but the thought of having to learn the ins and outs of new software, procedures, colleagues, and culture fills you with anxiety, so you don’t take action.
The problem with this is that you stunt your own growth. If you know all there is to know about something, there is no prospect for progression and your overall attitude to it is that ‘it’ll do’, you’re doing yourself a disservice. It is completely possible to wake up in the morning and look forward to your day ahead. Answering your true calling and doing what you love is the key to health, happiness and abundance.
The Law of Attraction
If that sounds a little bit too ‘hippy-dippy’ for your liking, it can be proven with science. Neuroscience tells us that Mirror Neurons fired in the brain culminate in an exchange of energy with the people around you. Put simply, the energy you give out is given back to you.
This means we are biologically designed to ‘mirror’ someone else’s demeanour, both positively and negatively. You’ve heard the expression, ‘misery loves company’? Or noticed that when you come into work in a bad mood, that everyone around you during the day also becomes irritable? This is why. We attract people, situations and circumstances that match the ‘vibe’ we emanate. This is what is known as the Law of Attraction. As accepted in science as the Law of Gravity, it accepts that ‘like’ attracts ‘like’.
Thankfully, it’s not just misery that loves company. Joy loves company too. The Law of Attraction dictates that we attract what we put out into the world. By that principle, if you remain in a dissatisfied state, you will only attract more dissatisfying circumstances. However, if you make your intentions clear, and pursue the life you want with belief and confidence in yourself, you’ll begin to receive opportunities and like-minded people that align with your aspirations.
Fear of Standing Out
Sometimes, we can know, deep down, that we are meant for things that might seem out of the ordinary to others. Let’s say, for example, that you love to sing; but when you speak to people about singing professionally, you get told that it’s an unpredictable profession and that it won’t pay the bills. So, you talk yourself out of what you want in order to make a more practical, socially-acceptable living.
What we want may not be considered practical by everybody; but, if not doing it is going to make you feel incomplete, does it matter what people think? Answering a call of the soul is what life is all about. We can let fear hold us back, or we can love ourselves enough to follow our bliss.
The Jim Carrey Philosophy
As unlikely as it sounds, the person who probably made this point in the most profoundly beautiful way, was Jim Carrey. Star of films such as Dumb and Dumber and Ace Ventura: Pet Detective, he is not the most obvious source of wisdom on the subject of the leap of faith.
Nevertheless, when Carrey was invited to make the commencement speech at Maharishi University of Management in 2014, he gave a speech that would inspire even the most stubborn of hearts to take action.
“You can spend your whole life imagining ghosts,” Carrey said, “worrying about the pathway to the future; but all there will ever be, is what’s happening here, and the decisions we make in this moment, which are based in either love, or fear.”
“So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality,” Carrey continued. “What we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect, so we never dare to ask the universe for it. I’m saying, I’m the proof that you can ask the universe for it.”
“My father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so, he made a conservative choice: Instead, he got a ‘safe’ job as an accountant, and, when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that ‘safe’ job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father. Not the least of which, was that you can fail at what you DON’T want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you LOVE.”
“I can tell you from experience that the effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is,” Carrey added. “Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form. Risk being seen in all of your glory.”
There is a line from the 2015 film ‘Cinderella’, which says, “This is, perhaps, the greatest risk that any of us will take: to be seen as we truly are.” Risk is an inevitable part of instigating change in our careers and our lives. You owe it to yourself to at least explore the possibility of making your wishes come true. If coaching helps you to do this, then great. Of course, we all want to fit in and to be accepted. Maybe being true to yourself will let you discover where you fit and who your ‘tribe’ really are.
The truth is, we never really know until we try. To know what to do for the best, close your eyes, and listen to what your soul is whispering to you. Let it guide you. Ask it questions. How does your current situation make you feel? Does it spark joy or trigger dread? Your reactions and intuition will tell you if where you are is where you are truly meant to be. Ask the universe for what you want. By doing so, you turn your ambitions into energy. Energy is a real and tangible entity. So, just by making your intentions known, you are, in affect, making your dreams a reality.
Your ‘ah-ha’ moment might just be the turning point in your story – the path to your ‘happily ever after’.
3 Ways Science Explains how the Law of Attraction Works: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=giSJzUUwx4Q
Full Speech: Jim Carrey’s Commencement Address at the 2014 MUM Graduation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V80-gPkpH6M
Cinderella (2015) Ending Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=__cM7IFKFDk&t=17s